I've been taking careful notes throughout pregnancy, birth, and parenthood for several reasons. It helps me stay grounded in what actually happened as I process my memories and heal, it helps me make decisions about how to do things differently in the future, and I hope it can help me stay empathetic to friends going through similar things. I hope this is helpful to anyone considering having children or interesting/validating if you've already had children. What was more difficult than I expected about parenthood? For me, everything that was difficult during pregnancy pales in comparison to the challenges of parenthood and recovering from giving birth. Postpartum anxiety and depression made it hard to make decisions I felt my stress levels spike anytime Henry started crying. It always felt like a horrible thing that must be stopped and it was hard to think straight. It was hard to let go of hovering while other people took care of Henry. I felt so afraid they wouldn't feed
Nanny vs. nanny share vs. daycare vs. try to work from home with a crying baby? Unofficial stats based on 4 months of searching for daycares and nannies via Berkeley Parent Network, Care.com, Bananas, and an agency. Daycare I've looked at some contracts for in-home daycares in the area and had informational interviews with some. My neighbor, who runs an in-home daycare for older kids, said the California state licensing agency has advised daycares to update their contracts to include phrases about sending kids home if they seem lethargic or have a runny nose or cough. This is an update, from what I understand, to the previous policy of sending them home only in case of fever, diarrhea, or vomiting. There is also an expected 2 week quarantine period if you travel out of state and three days quarantine after the disappearance of cold or flu symptoms in your child. If you're working full-time at an average M-F, 9-5 job and travel an average amount, you'd be able to send your