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Broken relationships  So this might be an unusual Valentine's Day post. A couple years ago, I finished going through a year of intense group and individual therapy class and learned that I had been loving people who I shouldn't love. That's right: there are people you *shouldn't* love. This concept flew in the face of everything I stood for. Didn't every spiritual leader and book of scripture tell us to love everyone and forgive everyone, even our enemies? Well, yes, and guess who's included in "love everyone." ME and YOU. I have to love myself as much as I love others. You have to love yourself as much as you love others, and invite people and things into your life that improve your quality of life (in the areas you value). If they are doing that too, then you'll end up in relationships that help both people live their values. So what do you value? That's the core question to answer. Because if someone repeatedly makes i